Living in the modern age of technology can be a wonderful thing. Advancements in medicine and medical technology, more fuel efficient vehicles, electronic devices that can hold thousands of books and a myriad of other things prove that increased knowledge in the technological world can lead to the betterment of society.
However, it can also lead to it's detriment.
It used to be that in order to cheat on someone a person actually had to physically make the effort to meet someone. There were lies of working late in the office, important meetings one had to get to, or the classic, "Oh sorry, honey, I just lost track of the time while I was at x, y or z." A person had to be careful where they went, who might see them, or even who might overhear a conversation. There were so many risks of being caught, and perhaps for a twisted individual it was even the idea of this risky business that made the concept of cheating so enticing.
Today it's much more simpler.
And perhaps it's because of the increased ease, option and availability that so many do it. Plus, it's so easy to justify. "But, I'm not actually sleeping with her/him. In fact, I've never even met them!" Or one even better, "That's just someone I used to know when I was at such-and such job, or in highschool, or college, or... "....well you get the idea. It's nothing to worry about because they're only friends on Facebook.
But the fact remains that the very definition of cheating on someone is simply being unfaithful. One doesn't have to go on a date, or have sex with another in order to unfaithful. It's knowing that an individual trusts you and abusing that trust for your own selfish gain.
And thanks to modern technology being unfaithful has gotten a whole lot easier. We have facebook that connects us to a world of people...and through facebook we can send private messages, exchange pictures, even share our location so that might just happen to "bump" into someone.
We have cellphones...and with these cellphones all we have to do is have a phone number...and with that number, we can call, text, send and receive photos....and heck, throw in a data plan and you've got the same access to facebook. You don't even have to run the risk of your significant other catching you on the computer.
You can "safely" cheat on the go! And all the while, you're still convincing yourself-or maybe you aren't, maybe you can admit it and simply feel no remorse-that you aren't *really* doing anything wrong.
But that's the funny thing...you are. What's the point of meaningless texts with an individual you aren't in a relationship with? What's so great about seeing pictures of someone? Why is it that this seems to be okay with so many individuals that are already in committed relationships?
Honestly, unless you are in an "open" relationship- and I mean a truley "open" relationship, where your significant other is fully aware that you are chatting it up or drooling over, or even sleeping with someone else and they are completely okay with that- what is the point?
What is the point of starting something you aren't going to finish? And if you can so easily switch focus from the person you supposedly love ( and I say supposedly because if you love someone, you wouldn't even be going there), then what is the reason that you are even with that person?
I've never understood what drives people to cheat. I've always been the type of person that if I felt myself having wandering thoughts or eyes, then I realized that it was time to evaluate my current situation. If I felt that strongly that the grass was greener on the other side of the fence, then I just pack my stuff up, put the house up for sale and buy the house next door.
Unless of course the house next door isn't for sale...and well, that just brings up a whole new debacle.
There is never a reason nor an excuse to cheat. If you are bored in your current relationship, then talk it over with your significant other. If there's something missing, then see what you can do to bring that aspect to the table. If that's not the case and you simply want everything you see- then perhaps you should consider getting yourself into therapy OR find yourself a lady/fellow that wants to be in that aforementioned open relationship.
I'm the type of person that takes commitment seriously. When I'm in a relationship, i'm in that relationship. Anything that I need from the opposite gender, which is where my attraction lies, I should get from my partner. My boyfriend is my best friend and everything else...my help mate, my partner, my lover etc. etc. If I'm in need of additional companionship, then I seek out friends of the same sex to fill those roles. That's not to say that I don't have male friends, I do. But honestly they are either gay, or they are friends with my boyfriend and I don't talk about intimate things with them.
Perhaps I'm old school, but it just seems to me that looking for anything else brings on a whole slew of troubles. "Innocent flirting" is not innocent, nine times out of ten. Someone typically wants more...and even if neither parties do, you are disrespecting the person in your life that you claim to love.
I don't know any woman that would want to be with someone intimately, if they thought their partner was thinking of someone else when they were together. And that's exactly what it boils down to
Just keep in mind that if you think the grass is greener in someone else's backyard, more then likely there is a whole lot of fertilizer involved. And probably if you take a walk around you'll find your boots sinking pretty darn deep.
Saturday, January 26, 2013
Saturday, December 15, 2012
When you're too poor for peas....
I didn't come from a family of financial means. I guess the funny thing about that is as a child I never realized we were poor. It wasn't really until middle school that I discovered that this was the case. I suppose that is because even then in the nineties kids were cruel.
Part of the reason I never recognized the struggle that my family was in financially is because my house was filled with love and with laughter. My parents made do with what they had and they taught my brother and I so many valuable lessons along the way. Lessons that I don't think we really knew we were even learning until way later in life.
For instance, dinner time was always fun for me. Sure, I'd throw a hissy fit occasionally because we never ate out. It was only "special times' that warranted a hamburger from McDonald's or an actual drive to a sit-down restaurant. But most of the time, I was pretty content to eat at home, because my mom made making dinner fun. We were always having something different and the smells of veggies steaming, or meat cooking would fill the house.
It was the same at my Grandparents house. I come from a long line of pretty fabulous cooks. Recipes were passed down and passed along, through relatives and friends. My granny had a few cookbooks that she would use, but normally everything she made came straight from her head. My mom is the same way. She has loads of cookbooks and I can remember us opening them and flipping through them often, but she never really stared at one when she would begin cooking. She has always been really good at "tweaking" things. She might find a recipe she likes, and then substitute the majority of the ingredients with items she had on hand.
None the less, for the most part everything always ended up coming out pretty wonderful.
This pairs in with our financial situation, because what I never realized at the time but have since learned and incorporated myself is the resourcefulness of these woman. We always had a garden growing up, so if it was during season you could be assured that home grown vegetables would be included. When it wasn't season, we'd still use those home grown veggies- just in their canned or frozen form- however, they had been put up.
If the garden hadn't done well, or in later years when my family no longer gardened to the intensity that they once had, store bought canned veggies or frozen veggies would be used. My mom was, and still is, great at finding bargains and using coupons.
This is one of those valuable lessons that I mentioned earlier. Today I find myself doing the same thing that she always does. I scour my local papers for coupons, always look at the weekly sales ad when writing out my grocery list and make sure to check out all managered special items when I get to the store. Day old breads and meat that the sales date is coming up on, can always be repackaged and frozen until you are ready to use it.
Another valuable lesson came in the simple form of simply knowing how to throw a few odds and ends together to make a tasty dinner. It might not have been filet mignon, but I can promise you it was always good. Today, I still have a heart for casseroles and the comfort that they bring when I put them together.
In fact it is this very thing that inspired this post!
I'm thankful that the man that has been the love of my life for the past three years is also fabulous in the kitchen. My Significant Other has an associates in Culinary Skills and when it comes to making a meal, he's the man for the job! He has a different spin on cooking compared to my mom and granny. The meals that they cook are "simple home country meals". His view on cooking is a bit more "exotic", compared to them. It's still good, just different then what I know. However, I like that because I've also learned a lot from him especially in regards to flavors. I'm also willing to try things that I never had or didn't think I would like, because I trust him when he says something is good.
He teases me because I am notorious for using recipes. Even if it's something I've made a million times, I have to have a recipe in front of me. Unlike my mother and my grandmother, and unlike my boyfriend, I am not comfortable just "whipping things together."
Usually.
And that is something else that inspired this post! ( okay okay, I'll get to the point..)
Finances are pretty tight for me and my SO. I'm in college working towards my Masters Degree, and so I haven't been able to work much. The job market and economy has been in such a drought that jobs are hard to come from. He's found a stable job that he's been at for over a year, but it doesn't pay nearly as much as it should given all he does.
This month has been the roughest of all. The residual funds from the Student Loan I had have depleted, and thought I picked up a job, I just started. His hard earned check paid our rent and and other bills and at the moment we're both broke as could be. No trips to the grocery, no eating out. Basically, we've got what we've got and that's all we've got until we get our next check.
So as I meandered through the cabinets this evening, looking for something to eat other than Ramen Noodles, I happened upon a couple cans of tuna. Sure enough we had some pasta up there as well and suddenly I was reminded of the classic Tuna Noodle Cassarole. I know not everyone is a fan, but like I said, growing up we ate a lot of things that might not have been considered "cuisine". And did I mention I really love casseroles??
Thinking back to the basic recipe I knew people typically include peas. We have no peas in this house...So as usual, I started doing some recipe flipping. Of course, recipe flipping in 2012 is a lot different then it was back in 1994. Now with a click of a mouse and a few taps of the keyboard you can Google anything!!
So i did some "Googling" and hit the jackpot. One of the first recipes I found was for a "pea-less" tuna noodle cassarole.
And then that's where I did something a little different. I looked the recipe over and then decided, to do it all on my own....
Heres my recipe for Home-Made Tuna Noodle Casserole. Feel free to use it OR feel free to be inspired by it to create your own:
What you'll need:
Butter ( about one tablespoon to cook with, one tablespoon for your crust, and some to run into a 12x9 baking dish, unless you'd prefer to use a cooking spray)
One Can Mushroom pieces
Celery, chopped. (I used about three stalks )
1 package of french onion soup mix
1 cup of water
2 cans of Tuna Fish
1 can of Cream of Mushroom
Box of Pasta, ( (I used elbow macaroni, because that's what we had!)
Parmasian Cheese (as much as you prefer)
Shredded Cheese ( your choice, about a cup unless you prefer more)
Ritz crackers, crushed for your crust.
Preheat oven to 350
In a skillet, melt a tablespoon of butter and then saute your mushrooms and celery. After a few minutes, sprinkle in the french onion mix and stir in cup of water.Also, drain your two cans of tuna and add that in. Allow to simmer on Medium, stirring occasionally so as not to burn, until the water cooks down.
At the same time, boil your pasta until Al Dente. I always throw in a little salt with it.
Drain the pasta, rinse with cold water so your noodles wont be sticky.
In a large bowl combine your noodles with your tuna/veggie mixture. Pour in cream of mushroom and stir until it's all covered. While it's still warm, sprinkle in your parmesian cheese and your shredded cheese and make sure that's all nice and mixed up.
In a different smaller bowl, put a little butter over your crushed Ritz crackers, and microwave just long enough to melt the butter. usually about 30-45 seconds will do it.
Grease a 12X9 baking dish with some butter or with a cooking spray, whichever you prefer.
Pour in your tuna/noodle mixture and then top with your buttery ritz crackers. ( I typically stir those up a bit to make sure that the crackers are all coated.)
Place in the oven for 20-30 minutes, until crackers are browned.
Remove from oven and let stand for just a few minutes.
ENJOY!
Part of the reason I never recognized the struggle that my family was in financially is because my house was filled with love and with laughter. My parents made do with what they had and they taught my brother and I so many valuable lessons along the way. Lessons that I don't think we really knew we were even learning until way later in life.
For instance, dinner time was always fun for me. Sure, I'd throw a hissy fit occasionally because we never ate out. It was only "special times' that warranted a hamburger from McDonald's or an actual drive to a sit-down restaurant. But most of the time, I was pretty content to eat at home, because my mom made making dinner fun. We were always having something different and the smells of veggies steaming, or meat cooking would fill the house.
It was the same at my Grandparents house. I come from a long line of pretty fabulous cooks. Recipes were passed down and passed along, through relatives and friends. My granny had a few cookbooks that she would use, but normally everything she made came straight from her head. My mom is the same way. She has loads of cookbooks and I can remember us opening them and flipping through them often, but she never really stared at one when she would begin cooking. She has always been really good at "tweaking" things. She might find a recipe she likes, and then substitute the majority of the ingredients with items she had on hand.
None the less, for the most part everything always ended up coming out pretty wonderful.
This pairs in with our financial situation, because what I never realized at the time but have since learned and incorporated myself is the resourcefulness of these woman. We always had a garden growing up, so if it was during season you could be assured that home grown vegetables would be included. When it wasn't season, we'd still use those home grown veggies- just in their canned or frozen form- however, they had been put up.
If the garden hadn't done well, or in later years when my family no longer gardened to the intensity that they once had, store bought canned veggies or frozen veggies would be used. My mom was, and still is, great at finding bargains and using coupons.
This is one of those valuable lessons that I mentioned earlier. Today I find myself doing the same thing that she always does. I scour my local papers for coupons, always look at the weekly sales ad when writing out my grocery list and make sure to check out all managered special items when I get to the store. Day old breads and meat that the sales date is coming up on, can always be repackaged and frozen until you are ready to use it.
Another valuable lesson came in the simple form of simply knowing how to throw a few odds and ends together to make a tasty dinner. It might not have been filet mignon, but I can promise you it was always good. Today, I still have a heart for casseroles and the comfort that they bring when I put them together.
In fact it is this very thing that inspired this post!
I'm thankful that the man that has been the love of my life for the past three years is also fabulous in the kitchen. My Significant Other has an associates in Culinary Skills and when it comes to making a meal, he's the man for the job! He has a different spin on cooking compared to my mom and granny. The meals that they cook are "simple home country meals". His view on cooking is a bit more "exotic", compared to them. It's still good, just different then what I know. However, I like that because I've also learned a lot from him especially in regards to flavors. I'm also willing to try things that I never had or didn't think I would like, because I trust him when he says something is good.
He teases me because I am notorious for using recipes. Even if it's something I've made a million times, I have to have a recipe in front of me. Unlike my mother and my grandmother, and unlike my boyfriend, I am not comfortable just "whipping things together."
Usually.
And that is something else that inspired this post! ( okay okay, I'll get to the point..)
Finances are pretty tight for me and my SO. I'm in college working towards my Masters Degree, and so I haven't been able to work much. The job market and economy has been in such a drought that jobs are hard to come from. He's found a stable job that he's been at for over a year, but it doesn't pay nearly as much as it should given all he does.
This month has been the roughest of all. The residual funds from the Student Loan I had have depleted, and thought I picked up a job, I just started. His hard earned check paid our rent and and other bills and at the moment we're both broke as could be. No trips to the grocery, no eating out. Basically, we've got what we've got and that's all we've got until we get our next check.
So as I meandered through the cabinets this evening, looking for something to eat other than Ramen Noodles, I happened upon a couple cans of tuna. Sure enough we had some pasta up there as well and suddenly I was reminded of the classic Tuna Noodle Cassarole. I know not everyone is a fan, but like I said, growing up we ate a lot of things that might not have been considered "cuisine". And did I mention I really love casseroles??
Thinking back to the basic recipe I knew people typically include peas. We have no peas in this house...So as usual, I started doing some recipe flipping. Of course, recipe flipping in 2012 is a lot different then it was back in 1994. Now with a click of a mouse and a few taps of the keyboard you can Google anything!!
So i did some "Googling" and hit the jackpot. One of the first recipes I found was for a "pea-less" tuna noodle cassarole.
And then that's where I did something a little different. I looked the recipe over and then decided, to do it all on my own....
Heres my recipe for Home-Made Tuna Noodle Casserole. Feel free to use it OR feel free to be inspired by it to create your own:
What you'll need:
Butter ( about one tablespoon to cook with, one tablespoon for your crust, and some to run into a 12x9 baking dish, unless you'd prefer to use a cooking spray)
One Can Mushroom pieces
Celery, chopped. (I used about three stalks )
1 package of french onion soup mix
1 cup of water
2 cans of Tuna Fish
1 can of Cream of Mushroom
Box of Pasta, ( (I used elbow macaroni, because that's what we had!)
Parmasian Cheese (as much as you prefer)
Shredded Cheese ( your choice, about a cup unless you prefer more)
Ritz crackers, crushed for your crust.
Preheat oven to 350
In a skillet, melt a tablespoon of butter and then saute your mushrooms and celery. After a few minutes, sprinkle in the french onion mix and stir in cup of water.Also, drain your two cans of tuna and add that in. Allow to simmer on Medium, stirring occasionally so as not to burn, until the water cooks down.
At the same time, boil your pasta until Al Dente. I always throw in a little salt with it.
Drain the pasta, rinse with cold water so your noodles wont be sticky.
In a large bowl combine your noodles with your tuna/veggie mixture. Pour in cream of mushroom and stir until it's all covered. While it's still warm, sprinkle in your parmesian cheese and your shredded cheese and make sure that's all nice and mixed up.
In a different smaller bowl, put a little butter over your crushed Ritz crackers, and microwave just long enough to melt the butter. usually about 30-45 seconds will do it.
Grease a 12X9 baking dish with some butter or with a cooking spray, whichever you prefer.
Pour in your tuna/noodle mixture and then top with your buttery ritz crackers. ( I typically stir those up a bit to make sure that the crackers are all coated.)
Place in the oven for 20-30 minutes, until crackers are browned.
Remove from oven and let stand for just a few minutes.
ENJOY!
Friday, November 30, 2012
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Never underestimate the value of a smile..
I guess I should begin by stating that I absolutely hate driving in the city.
I'm a very anxious person. Always have been, probably always will. The older I get, the more I learn to keep some of that anxiety at bay. Things as odd as going to the chiropractor have actually helped. I found out that my neck sort of grows in the opposite direction from what it should. It drastically leans forward, instead of tilting back. This apparently causes all my little neurons and such to have to strain to reach my brain stem. I found out that this can actually cause people to be highly anxious. Perhaps it's merely the placebo effect, but I do feel like my anxiety level has gone down several notches in the three weeks of adjustments I've had with Dr. Greg.
However, I'm straying off course.
The point is...I'm anxious. And driving in the city is not a good thing for anyone who is naturally a nervous person. Don't get me wrong: I enjoy driving. Put me out in the middle of nowhere with a full tank of gas and plenty of time, and I'll be happier then a kid in a candy store. I love back roads, feeling the wind on my face, and looking at country homes and wildlife.
But driving in Louisville is not...and i repeat, NOT...like driving around my old stomping grounds in Anderson County.
It's hectic, and it's busy. People don't use turn signals, drive in whatever lane they feel like whenever they feel like...sometimes even all of them at the same time! Drivers can be rude. They'll ride your tail and then honk at you if you hit the breaks, as if you are the one in the wrong. Some roads have weird traffic lights, and these lanes can change depending on the time of day it is. Granted, I'm sure most of you are familiar with what I'm talking about. If you've never drove in Louisville, you've probably driven in Lexington, or Chicago, or LA..or okay...pretty much anywhere. :)
Some day's are worse then others. Some times are worse then others, but inevitably if you've ever been in a car in a large city you know what I'm talking about.
And some people can handle that....but..
Have i mentioned I'm an anxious person? ;)
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My day has been extremely hectic. I had an orientation for my graduate program at 10:45 this morning. I'm fairly familiar with U of L's campus, so I figured I'd leave my house about 10:00 am. That'd get me to school by a quarter after. Sometimes parking can be crazy, so that'd give me plenty of time to find a place to park.
Well, it was even more crazy then I thought. Welcome Week was also this week, so the parking lot was full. By 10:25 I'm still circling the garage looking for a spot. Finally I nab one on the roof, and head down to orientation.
That went well. I had my phone on vibrate because I obviously didn't want it to ring while i was in orientation. However, I was expecting a call. My boyfriend and I recently signed up for Direct TV and it was to be installed today. I'd been told to expect a call sometime between 12 and 4 letting me know that my technician was on the way. The plan was that whenever he called me, I'd text my boyfriend so that Charlie would know to be up to let the guy in. He works third shift, so ordinarily he'd be sleeping until 4 pm.
By 1:00 I'm making my way back to the parking garage and still no phone call. I had a chiropractor appointment at 2, so I figured I'd run home and change into my Adidas before making my way to the St. Matthews area. In the process of leaving the garage, I nearly got nailed twice by the same person. It all goes back to that bad driving things. For some reason people feel the need to go 55 in our schools parking garage. What surprised me was that this wasn't even a student. It was obviously a parent, his wife in the passenger seat and their prospective U of L'er in the backseat. After nearly running over me as I pulled out of my parking spot, he then proceeds to go down the wrong way and tried to hit me again as we crossed paths on a lower level. And of course, I'm the one in the wrong...or at least it appeared to be that way from the scowl on his face and the speed at which his mouth was moving. I'm thankful not to have been a fly on the wall, for that one.
From there I head back to our house in Germantown. Of course on the way, there was more aggrivations. A semi truck on the corner of Floyd was trying to do only Lord knows what, and no one wanted to be patient to wait for him. Then as I get on Eastern Parkway, there's people everywhere cutting in and out of traffic. By the time I got to Reutlinger, I was emotionally exhausted.
I get home, only to see the Direct TV truck parked and our front door wide open. Apparently Stu, our lovely tech, didn't bother to call before hand. Luckily, Charlie was awake. I ran in, changed shoes, and then I was off again.
Heading out to St. Matthews, no real drama, just lots and lots of traffic. I'm still not sure what was going on today to cause so many to be out and about in the middle of the day. None the less, I made it there and back by 2:30.
And at 2;30, when I get home? The Direct TV tech is STILL at our house. Of course I felt terrible for Charlie. He probably got at most 2 hours of sleep, and then had to go to work at Zappos for ten hours. It's going to be a long, long, long day for him.
The hour long installation turned into a 2 and a half hour long installation. I won't complain though. Our tv is up and running great.
Just when I thought my day was over, I found out that my student loan money had come in. As much as I hated getting back out, I wanted to go ahead and make a deposit into my bank and pay the rent, which we were a couple weeks behind on.
So back out into the mad world I go again. This time a drive down Bardstown road. I hate Bardstown road with a deep and burning passion. It's hectic, it's confusing, and not only do you have nutty drivers to deal with you have crazy pedestrians, and bike riders who feel extremely entitled to do as they please.
And I don't have air in my car. And it's hot. So there's that. And even though I've lived in Louisville awhile, I'm still directionally challenged at times. Thankfully, my phone has GPS on it.
Except my phone recently updated and my GPS system changed. So today was the first time I had to use it. Let's just say it didn't go so well.
I got to the bank. But then I needed to get to our landlords house, which is in St. Matthews off Westport Road.
For some reason my gps system took me in the general vacinity, but failed to direct me to his address. It was close but no cigar. I managed to reset it and find myself there, but I was irritated none the less. Of course, what can i say? Technology is only as good as the person using it. Need I say more?
By the time I drop of rent, and get back in my car, i'm set. I know how to get home. Shouldnt be a problem. Of course, some flying insect has decided to make himself an unpaying passenger in my car. So now I'm trying to grip my steering wheel with one hand and navigate back out to Westport Road without being killed, and I'm trying to shew Mr. Fly out of my face with the other hand.
Guh.
By this time, i'm just absolutely wore out. And it dawns on my I havent eaten. As much as I don't want to stop anywhere, I realize that I've got the shakes. I have a tendency to have low blood sugar, so I really have to watch that.
I decide I'll just run in the drive through at Wendys. I'll get a milkshake and be home in less then ten minutes. I got into the parking lot easily enough, I place my order, I pay and then ..
And then? I cant get out. Bardstown road is flying. I'm not about to try try to get out there. I roll into reverse, drive around to the other other side and plan on pulling out onto Grinstead. That's the better way to go anyway, for me to get home.
But now, I've got cars coming at me. I need to cross traffic to take a left. The left lane is empty, but the right lane is crazy.
If I could have crumpled up into a little ball of tears at this moment, I would have. I'm hot, I'm tired, I'm ready to be home.
And that's when it happened.
A man in a huge red pickup truck approached me from my right, and as if he could sense how utterly soul crushed I was...he..simply...stopped.
He smiled at me and waved me on. I glanced to my left and it was good. So i gunned it and turned sharply to my left. As i passed him, He smiled again and nodded his head. I frantically waved at him. Honestly, he probably thought I was a nutcase. My hair frazzled from the humidity, sweat pouring down my cheeks, and a psychotic smile plastered on my face. Oh well.
All i know is that made my day. I made it home, parked and came inside. Exhausted but with a mood much brighter then it had been an hour before.
Never forget the power of a good deed. I think that's a lesson we all should learn. In spite of our busy lives, and crazy schedules, we really should take the time to do something little for someone else. Friend, foe or stranger, it matters not. You never know what kind of day someone is having, and maybe that will be the little boost that they need to finish it out.
Never underestimate the value of a smile. It means more then you can ever know.
I'm a very anxious person. Always have been, probably always will. The older I get, the more I learn to keep some of that anxiety at bay. Things as odd as going to the chiropractor have actually helped. I found out that my neck sort of grows in the opposite direction from what it should. It drastically leans forward, instead of tilting back. This apparently causes all my little neurons and such to have to strain to reach my brain stem. I found out that this can actually cause people to be highly anxious. Perhaps it's merely the placebo effect, but I do feel like my anxiety level has gone down several notches in the three weeks of adjustments I've had with Dr. Greg.
However, I'm straying off course.
The point is...I'm anxious. And driving in the city is not a good thing for anyone who is naturally a nervous person. Don't get me wrong: I enjoy driving. Put me out in the middle of nowhere with a full tank of gas and plenty of time, and I'll be happier then a kid in a candy store. I love back roads, feeling the wind on my face, and looking at country homes and wildlife.
But driving in Louisville is not...and i repeat, NOT...like driving around my old stomping grounds in Anderson County.
It's hectic, and it's busy. People don't use turn signals, drive in whatever lane they feel like whenever they feel like...sometimes even all of them at the same time! Drivers can be rude. They'll ride your tail and then honk at you if you hit the breaks, as if you are the one in the wrong. Some roads have weird traffic lights, and these lanes can change depending on the time of day it is. Granted, I'm sure most of you are familiar with what I'm talking about. If you've never drove in Louisville, you've probably driven in Lexington, or Chicago, or LA..or okay...pretty much anywhere. :)
Some day's are worse then others. Some times are worse then others, but inevitably if you've ever been in a car in a large city you know what I'm talking about.
And some people can handle that....but..
Have i mentioned I'm an anxious person? ;)
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My day has been extremely hectic. I had an orientation for my graduate program at 10:45 this morning. I'm fairly familiar with U of L's campus, so I figured I'd leave my house about 10:00 am. That'd get me to school by a quarter after. Sometimes parking can be crazy, so that'd give me plenty of time to find a place to park.
Well, it was even more crazy then I thought. Welcome Week was also this week, so the parking lot was full. By 10:25 I'm still circling the garage looking for a spot. Finally I nab one on the roof, and head down to orientation.
That went well. I had my phone on vibrate because I obviously didn't want it to ring while i was in orientation. However, I was expecting a call. My boyfriend and I recently signed up for Direct TV and it was to be installed today. I'd been told to expect a call sometime between 12 and 4 letting me know that my technician was on the way. The plan was that whenever he called me, I'd text my boyfriend so that Charlie would know to be up to let the guy in. He works third shift, so ordinarily he'd be sleeping until 4 pm.
By 1:00 I'm making my way back to the parking garage and still no phone call. I had a chiropractor appointment at 2, so I figured I'd run home and change into my Adidas before making my way to the St. Matthews area. In the process of leaving the garage, I nearly got nailed twice by the same person. It all goes back to that bad driving things. For some reason people feel the need to go 55 in our schools parking garage. What surprised me was that this wasn't even a student. It was obviously a parent, his wife in the passenger seat and their prospective U of L'er in the backseat. After nearly running over me as I pulled out of my parking spot, he then proceeds to go down the wrong way and tried to hit me again as we crossed paths on a lower level. And of course, I'm the one in the wrong...or at least it appeared to be that way from the scowl on his face and the speed at which his mouth was moving. I'm thankful not to have been a fly on the wall, for that one.
From there I head back to our house in Germantown. Of course on the way, there was more aggrivations. A semi truck on the corner of Floyd was trying to do only Lord knows what, and no one wanted to be patient to wait for him. Then as I get on Eastern Parkway, there's people everywhere cutting in and out of traffic. By the time I got to Reutlinger, I was emotionally exhausted.
I get home, only to see the Direct TV truck parked and our front door wide open. Apparently Stu, our lovely tech, didn't bother to call before hand. Luckily, Charlie was awake. I ran in, changed shoes, and then I was off again.
Heading out to St. Matthews, no real drama, just lots and lots of traffic. I'm still not sure what was going on today to cause so many to be out and about in the middle of the day. None the less, I made it there and back by 2:30.
And at 2;30, when I get home? The Direct TV tech is STILL at our house. Of course I felt terrible for Charlie. He probably got at most 2 hours of sleep, and then had to go to work at Zappos for ten hours. It's going to be a long, long, long day for him.
The hour long installation turned into a 2 and a half hour long installation. I won't complain though. Our tv is up and running great.
Just when I thought my day was over, I found out that my student loan money had come in. As much as I hated getting back out, I wanted to go ahead and make a deposit into my bank and pay the rent, which we were a couple weeks behind on.
So back out into the mad world I go again. This time a drive down Bardstown road. I hate Bardstown road with a deep and burning passion. It's hectic, it's confusing, and not only do you have nutty drivers to deal with you have crazy pedestrians, and bike riders who feel extremely entitled to do as they please.
And I don't have air in my car. And it's hot. So there's that. And even though I've lived in Louisville awhile, I'm still directionally challenged at times. Thankfully, my phone has GPS on it.
Except my phone recently updated and my GPS system changed. So today was the first time I had to use it. Let's just say it didn't go so well.
I got to the bank. But then I needed to get to our landlords house, which is in St. Matthews off Westport Road.
For some reason my gps system took me in the general vacinity, but failed to direct me to his address. It was close but no cigar. I managed to reset it and find myself there, but I was irritated none the less. Of course, what can i say? Technology is only as good as the person using it. Need I say more?
By the time I drop of rent, and get back in my car, i'm set. I know how to get home. Shouldnt be a problem. Of course, some flying insect has decided to make himself an unpaying passenger in my car. So now I'm trying to grip my steering wheel with one hand and navigate back out to Westport Road without being killed, and I'm trying to shew Mr. Fly out of my face with the other hand.
Guh.
By this time, i'm just absolutely wore out. And it dawns on my I havent eaten. As much as I don't want to stop anywhere, I realize that I've got the shakes. I have a tendency to have low blood sugar, so I really have to watch that.
I decide I'll just run in the drive through at Wendys. I'll get a milkshake and be home in less then ten minutes. I got into the parking lot easily enough, I place my order, I pay and then ..
And then? I cant get out. Bardstown road is flying. I'm not about to try try to get out there. I roll into reverse, drive around to the other other side and plan on pulling out onto Grinstead. That's the better way to go anyway, for me to get home.
But now, I've got cars coming at me. I need to cross traffic to take a left. The left lane is empty, but the right lane is crazy.
If I could have crumpled up into a little ball of tears at this moment, I would have. I'm hot, I'm tired, I'm ready to be home.
And that's when it happened.
A man in a huge red pickup truck approached me from my right, and as if he could sense how utterly soul crushed I was...he..simply...stopped.
He smiled at me and waved me on. I glanced to my left and it was good. So i gunned it and turned sharply to my left. As i passed him, He smiled again and nodded his head. I frantically waved at him. Honestly, he probably thought I was a nutcase. My hair frazzled from the humidity, sweat pouring down my cheeks, and a psychotic smile plastered on my face. Oh well.
All i know is that made my day. I made it home, parked and came inside. Exhausted but with a mood much brighter then it had been an hour before.
Never forget the power of a good deed. I think that's a lesson we all should learn. In spite of our busy lives, and crazy schedules, we really should take the time to do something little for someone else. Friend, foe or stranger, it matters not. You never know what kind of day someone is having, and maybe that will be the little boost that they need to finish it out.
Never underestimate the value of a smile. It means more then you can ever know.
Monday, August 6, 2012
words
The sun's gonna rise again
Beginnings come from another's end.
There's gonna be anger and pain and tears
Life is full of irrational fears
Shut the door on the past and walk away
you can look back, just don't stay.
Take the lessons and move towards the light
Sometimes you walk out of the ring losing the fight.
There can be no rainbows without the rain
No healing occurs without some pain.
Change can't happen if you don't want to change.
Sometimes we break, only to be rebuilt
Things aren't always straight and narrow, you gotta look with a tilt.
Black and white is not realistic
and pretending it is simply wont fix it.
We put on our blinders, we walk in a line
In paving our own way, we're afraid to fall behind.
but sometimes that's exactly where we should be
from way in the back, the truth you can see.
A long perspective is necessary
Drop the baggage, it's not something to carry.
even a carry on is needed so rarely.
Watch the fight,
enjoy the flight
try with all your might
to take a bite
of the life
you'd like
to lead.
Past mistakes
help to make
you take
your foot of the break
so that you can escalate
into the person who you could be.
Beginnings come from another's end.
There's gonna be anger and pain and tears
Life is full of irrational fears
Shut the door on the past and walk away
you can look back, just don't stay.
Take the lessons and move towards the light
Sometimes you walk out of the ring losing the fight.
There can be no rainbows without the rain
No healing occurs without some pain.
Change can't happen if you don't want to change.
Sometimes we break, only to be rebuilt
Things aren't always straight and narrow, you gotta look with a tilt.
Black and white is not realistic
and pretending it is simply wont fix it.
We put on our blinders, we walk in a line
In paving our own way, we're afraid to fall behind.
but sometimes that's exactly where we should be
from way in the back, the truth you can see.
A long perspective is necessary
Drop the baggage, it's not something to carry.
even a carry on is needed so rarely.
Watch the fight,
enjoy the flight
try with all your might
to take a bite
of the life
you'd like
to lead.
Past mistakes
help to make
you take
your foot of the break
so that you can escalate
into the person who you could be.
Tuesday, July 31, 2012
A New Chapter: the horizon's in the distance
In exactly 20 days, I will start a new chapter in my life: graduate school.
To be honest, I don't think I'd ever make it this far. Sure, I'd talked on and off about the possibility of getting my Masters, but I've never had any real sense of direction. In high school, I made good grades. I went to college because that is what you are supposed to do. I majored in Art, because I enjoyed in and I figured if I had to spend four more years being educated I should at least enjoy it. Besides, "they" always said you should just get a degree. It didn't seem to matter what it was in.
Four years later, I had a nice fancy piece of paper that said I was an expert in Fine Arts, as well as in Educational Ministries. I had double majored at the last minute, because I didn't see the point in a minor. What would a minor do for me exactly? I enjoyed Theology, I was at a Southern Baptist university and I had made good grades in all my required Theology courses..so why not?
And then off into the real world I went. I quickly found out that "they" were wrong. Having two degrees was impressive, but that didn't get me any great job. I bounced around from one hourly paid job to another, never making much money and never finding a niche.
Once out of the religious bubble of a Christian school, I found myself disillusioned with the church. Never with God, mind you. Never with Jesus. But with christians. I discovered that so many of us want to talk a great talk, but don't walk our faith. I'm just as guilty, but I've always tried my hardest to simply be myself. I don't pretend that I'm perfect, and I do NOT judge others for their imperfections. None of us are righteous, and all are sinners. So really, who are we to judge one another?
But that's not what this blog is about, so I digress. The point is in becoming so unglued from church, I knew I'd never work for one. So my educational ministry degree served very little purpose. Other then it was a reminder that I have a genuine heart for people. I will always want to serve. Since I was a little girl, I've been the "listener", the "therapist". But what did that mean?
My art degree? Well...i've never wanted to teach. And I'm no Monet. So what does one do with that? I discovered along the way the therepeutic side of art. The healing potential it has, not only for the one doing it but for those that look at it. So now what?
I decided to look into Art therapy. And that brought me to U of L. They have one of the only art therapy programs in the state, and I live in Louisville. It only made sense to check into it. Turns out I was missing a lot of prerequisites. The cheapest and fastest way to get around this was to enroll as an undergrad yet again. So i began my journey in January of 2011.
Psychology became my major, and for two full semesters I lived, breathed and ate psychology. However, the more I looked into it, I still felt disconnected. It seemed so focused, so final, so closed off.
Upon the urging of a good friend, I made an appointment to speak with someone in the Social Work office. Within ten minutes, my whole scholastic life had been turned upside down. The woman that I spoke with was one of the deans of the Kent School, and she highly advised me to apply for graduate school for a Masters of Science in Social work. With this degree, I'd be able to work towards becoming a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, this would allow for me to see patients as a Therapist and I'd be billable for Medicare/Medicaid. This is a good thing, as anyone who's ever worked in billing knows.
Not only that, but the spectrum of Social Work is so much more open. A social worker says that there's more to a person's problem then just state of self. Psychology is very inward. You are who you are because of who you are. Social Work says that you are who you are because of a culmination of things...how you were raised, where you were raised, who you were raised by. This speaks more to the idea of holistic treatment. I'm a firm believer in that. There are so many factors that contribute to our personality and to our sense of self. It's important to look at the bigger picture to see cause and effect.
Not only that, but social workers get their hands dirty. They aren't paid billions of dollars to sit in an office and treat the wealthy. They are working with every aspect of human kind. The poor, the homeless, single parents, wards of the state. Social workers do not see race, nor wealth. they don't judge based on religion or creed. They are simply there to help. It doesn't matter who you are or where you come from, they are there to help.
Please don't get me wrong I'm not saying that Psychologists or Psychiatrists don't do this as well, I'm just saying that more often then not it's the Social Workers who are really in the trenches.
And well, I've realized that's where I want to be.
I've still got so much to learn. I'm not coming at this with any sort of background. I've sorta been in left field for much of the game. It's exciting and overwhelming all at the same time. And because there are so many opportunites and the door is open so wide within this area, I'm still not quite sure where I'll find myself at the end of my two year study. However, that's the beauty of the program. I'll get to work with a variety of people, learn a variety of skills and hopefully through the combination of education and experience I'll have a better idea at the end which direction I'll be going in.
At least I know what road I'm walking on now and that in itself is quite a relief. For so long I've just wandered aimlessly with no real end in sight. It's nice to see the horizon in my sight.
To be honest, I don't think I'd ever make it this far. Sure, I'd talked on and off about the possibility of getting my Masters, but I've never had any real sense of direction. In high school, I made good grades. I went to college because that is what you are supposed to do. I majored in Art, because I enjoyed in and I figured if I had to spend four more years being educated I should at least enjoy it. Besides, "they" always said you should just get a degree. It didn't seem to matter what it was in.
Four years later, I had a nice fancy piece of paper that said I was an expert in Fine Arts, as well as in Educational Ministries. I had double majored at the last minute, because I didn't see the point in a minor. What would a minor do for me exactly? I enjoyed Theology, I was at a Southern Baptist university and I had made good grades in all my required Theology courses..so why not?
And then off into the real world I went. I quickly found out that "they" were wrong. Having two degrees was impressive, but that didn't get me any great job. I bounced around from one hourly paid job to another, never making much money and never finding a niche.
Once out of the religious bubble of a Christian school, I found myself disillusioned with the church. Never with God, mind you. Never with Jesus. But with christians. I discovered that so many of us want to talk a great talk, but don't walk our faith. I'm just as guilty, but I've always tried my hardest to simply be myself. I don't pretend that I'm perfect, and I do NOT judge others for their imperfections. None of us are righteous, and all are sinners. So really, who are we to judge one another?
But that's not what this blog is about, so I digress. The point is in becoming so unglued from church, I knew I'd never work for one. So my educational ministry degree served very little purpose. Other then it was a reminder that I have a genuine heart for people. I will always want to serve. Since I was a little girl, I've been the "listener", the "therapist". But what did that mean?
My art degree? Well...i've never wanted to teach. And I'm no Monet. So what does one do with that? I discovered along the way the therepeutic side of art. The healing potential it has, not only for the one doing it but for those that look at it. So now what?
I decided to look into Art therapy. And that brought me to U of L. They have one of the only art therapy programs in the state, and I live in Louisville. It only made sense to check into it. Turns out I was missing a lot of prerequisites. The cheapest and fastest way to get around this was to enroll as an undergrad yet again. So i began my journey in January of 2011.
Psychology became my major, and for two full semesters I lived, breathed and ate psychology. However, the more I looked into it, I still felt disconnected. It seemed so focused, so final, so closed off.
Upon the urging of a good friend, I made an appointment to speak with someone in the Social Work office. Within ten minutes, my whole scholastic life had been turned upside down. The woman that I spoke with was one of the deans of the Kent School, and she highly advised me to apply for graduate school for a Masters of Science in Social work. With this degree, I'd be able to work towards becoming a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, this would allow for me to see patients as a Therapist and I'd be billable for Medicare/Medicaid. This is a good thing, as anyone who's ever worked in billing knows.
Not only that, but the spectrum of Social Work is so much more open. A social worker says that there's more to a person's problem then just state of self. Psychology is very inward. You are who you are because of who you are. Social Work says that you are who you are because of a culmination of things...how you were raised, where you were raised, who you were raised by. This speaks more to the idea of holistic treatment. I'm a firm believer in that. There are so many factors that contribute to our personality and to our sense of self. It's important to look at the bigger picture to see cause and effect.
Not only that, but social workers get their hands dirty. They aren't paid billions of dollars to sit in an office and treat the wealthy. They are working with every aspect of human kind. The poor, the homeless, single parents, wards of the state. Social workers do not see race, nor wealth. they don't judge based on religion or creed. They are simply there to help. It doesn't matter who you are or where you come from, they are there to help.
Please don't get me wrong I'm not saying that Psychologists or Psychiatrists don't do this as well, I'm just saying that more often then not it's the Social Workers who are really in the trenches.
And well, I've realized that's where I want to be.
I've still got so much to learn. I'm not coming at this with any sort of background. I've sorta been in left field for much of the game. It's exciting and overwhelming all at the same time. And because there are so many opportunites and the door is open so wide within this area, I'm still not quite sure where I'll find myself at the end of my two year study. However, that's the beauty of the program. I'll get to work with a variety of people, learn a variety of skills and hopefully through the combination of education and experience I'll have a better idea at the end which direction I'll be going in.
At least I know what road I'm walking on now and that in itself is quite a relief. For so long I've just wandered aimlessly with no real end in sight. It's nice to see the horizon in my sight.
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Breed Specific Legislation is a joke
Flash forward to a few years later...and now, I consider him my baby. He snuggles with me at night. He gives me kisses when I need them, and even when I don't. He's never far from my side and even though he is probably one of the sweetest dogs in the world, people tend to be scared of him. Sometimes that's to my advantage. Especially, on night's that Charlie works.
And don't get me wrong, if he ever thought for a second that someone was trying to harm either Charlie or I, I have no doubt in my mind he'd eat your face off. But for the most part he's simply content to lick it off.
It's sad to me the misconception people have about Bully breeds. Tank is a red nosed American Pit Bull. He's 80 some lbs, strong as an ox and has a head as big as one. Sure, I can understand the trepidation around him. A person should always have a healthy fear of a dog. But that's of any dog. Statistically speaking, did you know that the Golden Retriever is more of a perpetrator then a Pit? Yup. Bite for bite, the Golden has been the cause of more dog bite accidents. Yet, Pit Bulls will get euthanized in a heart beat because they are such "aggressive" dogs.
I hate to break it to you, but any dog can be aggressive. I bet even Lassie could be mean if she wanted to. A dog is going to treat you as he's been treated. If you beat a dog, or starve a dog, or train a dog to attack people, then you should not be surprised if one day it bites someone. On the other hand, if you provide that same dog with love and compassion, then you'll get that back ten fold.
The true crime does not lie within the animal, but rather within it's owner. And that's a real shame. Why don't we euthenize all the bad owners? That makes more sense to me. (I mean, okay...not really, but you get what I'm saying.) You put down a dog because it's a "bad dog", and yet the only crime that dog committed was that fate allowed him in the wrong hands. That same owner is going to do the same thing to another dog and another dog and another dog.
We do not blame a victim if he or she is raped. It's not their fault that someone violates them against their will. So why do we blame an innocent animal?
Recently a dog in N. Ireland was put to death simply because he was thought to be a pit bull. He'd not bit anyone, not hurt anyone, had never even acted in a way that showed aggression. Yet a committee decreed that because he fit the standards of a pit bull, he should be taken away from him home and family and killed. People have been all up in arms about this in the US. I've seen a lot of posts, blogs and websites dedicated to this atrocity.
However, need I remind you that here right in the US we're doing the same thing? In parts of Florida and Colorado, Pit Bulls are considered an illegal breed and someone so much as thinks you have one, they will come in and do the same thing.
Be informed. Get educated. And please spread the word to end Breed Specific Legislation.
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